There are many differences in our world of religion. We talk about duty to God and being reverent. I don't think we are here to define want this might mean to a Jew, a Baptist, a Muslim,a Methodist a Lutheran or any other religious organization. Do I agree with the policy of the ELCA? Absolutely not and I would leave the denomination in a heartbeat if I were a member! BUT...I am not here to judge them.
The choice for my family would be simple in that we would just not be active in an ELCA charted Troop if it was promoting that kind of lifestyle. Heck, I know of a Baptist chartered Troop that requires all uniformed leaders to be saved in order to register. They can do that if they want and we would have a choice not to join that one if we knew in advance it was part of their policy.
Let's respect the religous differences of others and as my Bible teacher likes to say "remember we are in sales and not in management"
It is way past the time that the BSA should drop the policy.