Chelle

I think all or most of us agree that the De's actions are up to somone higher up the ladder to decide on the outcome of that particular situation. Done and said. At this point I see a NEW Thread coming out of this one circumnstance. What are our obligations as volunteers or whatever position we hold to help guide the boys on the "right path?" Everyones definition of the "right path" can be different, but can we rely on sighting the "rules" in BSA in a friendly manner? Or are any of us out of line for expressing concern in any of the situations brought up by Beavah? Alchol at a BSA event- OK when no boys present or never OK? A little necking between consenting adults at a BSA event- OK with no boys present or in private, or not appropriate? Do I have the right to tastefully and kindly express my opinions to some I feel is not going down the right path? I am not saying jump over their heads and bust them with their bosses, but is the a good standard of rules that ALL of us should follow; volunteer to paid employee? I don't like to sound like I am on a high-horse or a soap box. I just wonder about these things. Situations like these will come up. How do we handle them right then, when they are happening. Do we do what we think is best for the boys (which will always be different to different people) or do we keep our mouths shut and risk an irrate parent? Food for thought...

Adams - wonderful points. We are the examples for the young men around us. As a leader parents trust in me to show moral and ethical behavior to their sons. As a parent I hope and pray that other leaders in my Sons life remember that someone who is very curioous is watching what they say and do, and is learning from them. Kids know and understand a lot more than people give them credit for. I hope things are worked out in a positive way for the boys concerning this DE. We are here for the boys first and formost!