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"Honey, we're going to have a huge tax bill this year. Watch my Facebook posts over the next few days for the amount. I promise, we shouldn't have to sell your car or wedding ring." As a relative outsider, this is a very weird movie. I shoulda checked the Rotten Tomatoes before I bought it.

Yeah, yeah. I know. But they be talking to the peeps who are footing the bill, in the moment and going forward. The honest thing is to say, "We are required to contribute $1.3B, but are still in the process of determining how to convert the Pollock, Klimt, deKoonig and Picasso into cash. Stay tuned." Something like that.

Do any of the Catholic experts have a list of the members of Catholic Mutual?

Um, didn't that sorta just happen?

Obviously, some LCs saw the ruling in the best possible light pointing to with a reasonably near-term resolution built on the lame duck RSA. Who's communicating that? Also, what's this continuing claim of a confidentiality muzzle when we all know it's been lifted? Inquiring minds want to know...

Have there been any murmurings from AIS or the Coalition of Disappointed Attorneys for Justifiable Bribery?

This is an interview with Kathryn Robb, Exec Director of CHILDUSA Advocacy. Aired in February, but worth the five minutes. https://www.yourerie.com/on-our-air/newsmaker/newsmaker-kathryn-robb/

https://www.insurancejournal.com/news/national/2021/08/23/628273.htm

Okay. I guess it's time to pull out my Hardon's "Modern Catholic Dictionary." I'm rusty, to the chagrin of my Franciscan, Jesuit and Sisters of St. Agnes teachers.

"Answer to," but that doesn't seem to in any way "draw up" the liability. I believe it stops and rests with each Diocese. That's why they are the ones being sued and moving into their own 11s. No? Maybe this strand in the thread is about who gets to open the mail. Call me when it's over.

Dang it. That impacts my revenue trickle. Now, I have to cancel the food truck and outdoor big screen. I've been making some serious coin airing these. Korean BBQ on Wheels will be upset, as will the neighbors. Tanc is a celebrity. We place bets on when his pen will burst as he chews on it.

THAT explains everything! BSA is circling the drain because it lost a wing. Man. I wish I had thought of that...

Counsel for the Methodist and Catholic Ad Hoc Committees made this point very forcefully. He was nearly incredulous that BSA would be putting out any presumptive numbers for a business model, while simultaneously leaving the COs out of the current RSA. In effect, he asked, “Have you even considered how your business plan pencils if we go away? Have you lost your mind, as well as your calculator? You need us and, well, we really don’t ‘need’ you if it comes right down to it.”

This one of area of the insurance matters my wife commented on. From her view, there may very well be a high threshold of premiums at least until they have a “wait and see what happens” period. She was dubious about it being easier *poof* after discharge.

Sorry. My cousin was a PD representing almost exclusively juveniles and it sure seems to be, as she described it. Of course, those made it into the judicial system. She’s now a judge magistrate and sees many of her “kids” cycle back. Not encouraging.

Though I’m frequently wrong, but never in doubt, I believe it was suggested to me by an insider that BSA’s goal is to loop in all claims that arose/arise prior to discharge. As it was relayed, that was part of discussions. I haven’t seen such a provision. Love to receive a confirmation or slap down.

I’m truly sorry for that and what you lost, physically and things dear to your heart. That’s awful. What was the reporting and disciplinary process?

Yes. My point in the hypothetical was not to request a generalization, rather a specific response to a senario. You know the guy. He was in you Unit or LC or at a camp you attended or staffed. Now, you know some horrible stuff you and everyone in your LC Cone of Silence Brigade believes is true. And, he’s beyond the reach of the law. Does that change your feeling or reaction? Some guys who are reading those POCs will confront that exact scenario.

A bunch of us are old guys and our abusers are dead or lost in life’s shuffle. This doesn’t apply and needs to be factored in when you respond to his comments. Right. That’s why I, anyway, have moved on to the substance of our reaction and am not trying to analyze that case. And, as I said, I aim to find out what happened. Yes, as I said before.

Tried that. They wouldn’t touch it without something “official.” Too much exposure if it turns out to be at all iffy or fabricated. Dandy defamation law suit in the making. It’s very different when you initiate, as I did, however futile. As I said earlier, totally different when you’re in an assumed “confidential”situation like this and someone else launches it. I’m not sure how that can/could be handled. I agree with Tim Kosnoff that someone needs to step in and clarify for the sake of all victim claimants. I think its importance can’t be overstated, at least from my crappy antique Windsor chair. Hm. Not sure of the latter. I think #metoo has become extremely problematic. Frankly, I’ve viewed it rise and have commented to many in my circle that the “celebritization” (I that new non-word) of sexual abuse, depression, PTSD has done tons of damage. I would love to delve further into that topic, including how it could be done differently. In order: 1) The life impact pain, which is enormous, often is rampaging when before the confrontation. For me, the greatest emotional/psychological cratering came after it revealed itself when my dad died and my boys asked to join Scouting. I utterly fell apart. 2) For sure and, for boys abused by men, multiply by some X factor, not sure what it is. You’ve heard lots of this here. 3) Yes, in part, but for me not primarily. I was locked up and down, coming to dissociate and act normal in all other contexts, even immediately after. Hero worship, the lure of feeling “special” and getting more attention can be huge during extended periods of abuse. 3) You mean in the form of “prosecution” by public humiliation? If so, doing the same to my abuser isn’t going to put mine to rest. It will feel like a measure of justice, but that won’t heal it. That’s going to go on for a long time. Remember, there is potentially an unspeakable shame in admitting all this publicly. That’s a large part of the reaction you’re seeing from several of us. Hope that helps. Sorry for any typos. Moving fast today.

Badge of honor, my friend. Badge of honor.

My avoidance of him, that time, was in deference to my family and the realization that harming him would most likely land me in prison. Another time, I was in my home town again and met some high school “friends” (only two really qualify) at a dive bar. I moved away when I was 18 so had been gone for 20+ years. I was not drinking at the time. When I walked in and looked over to the bar, there sat two of my ASMs. We recognized each other immediately. I said, “Hey,” politely riding an immediate adrenaline surge, on high alert. The main ASM, who I liked very much but have allowed myself to admit had to have been complicit in nearly everything, looked at me and said, “__________” (SM) will be here in a few minutes.” I blurted out, “Good. Tell him I’m looking for him.” He never showed. I assume they called him. For what’s it’s worth, a was a late bloomer and smaller kid up until junior/senior year of high school. When I was in town for that particular reunion some of the fat and out of shapes jocks joked I should be voted, “Most likely to have taken steroids.” I didn’t look like a pretty young boy any more. It’s hard to explain what’s like knowing “that person” is skulking around on the planet, living their life and going on their merry way. I realize, he may have been and may be a tortured individual. I never saw it. Only slightly more than 10 years my senior, I have watched from a distance as he enjoys his retirement, sees the grandkids, fishes, hangs out with the boys, fishes and hunts and (wait for it) organizes his photos from Scouting to selectively post on his Fb page. Yours truly is featured prominently at about age 13. I’m not kidding. His life appears to have been far, far, far more stable and normal than mine. So you don’t think me some sort of masochist, I only looked at his Fb in preparation for my POC and a few times previous when writing about my life and experience.

For the record, this is what elicited my laughing man emoji.

I’m asking you guys personally. He’s not in Scouting anymore. He’s untouchable under the law…

You messin’ with me? Assuming not, ‘85 F-150. Beautiful dark blue and white. It was my dad’s. I bought it from my mom when he died.