Hi, I know this thread is died out as dinosaurs but I'd like to tell you a little bit about my own experience.
My wife and I use a Snowpeak canister stove, Evernew 1.9l pot with a cozy, an MLD 850ml mug and two titanium sporks: https://www.amazon.com/Snow-Peak-Giga-Power-Stove/dp/B002T4ODGM
When the kids (5&6) come along we add two additional sporks, two titanium bowls (https://getawaychief.com/backpacking-mess-kit/) and two titanium double wall mugs.
We have lightened the load a few ounces by only taking the MLD mug to heat water and drink tea, but neither of us like eating out of freezer bags and the bigger pot allows us to cook everything for two people in one container and is great for boiling water to wash up at night.
With the kids, the bigger pot is a necessity: https://youtu.be/_wuzCggioeY
Dinner and breakfast usually work something like this: Boil water in the pot, then add in food and set aside in the cozy. Boil water in the mug to make tea.
When the tea is done and cooled enough to drink, the food is usually ready to eat.