OK clearly this is a discussion-stimulating topic. I agree that "each troop deciding what is active" is arguably not the best practice, it should be what BSA says. But I don't want to start a debate over that.
My son currently:
Chaplin Aide
First Class (age 13). His goal is Eagle by age 16
"Administratively meets" all upgrade to Star requirements. Has service hours, Merit Badges, etc. Has about 1/2 the Eagle badges already done.
National Junior Honor Society, plays soccer, does some service hours at Nursing Home. Also is altar boy at church. In other words, he is "whole concept" demonstrating Scout values, health physical/moral, service to others, striving to do his best at school, etc.
Active at fund raising, popcorn, wreath sales (door to door can be done outside of soccer). Typically out-sells other Scouts (not that this is a requirement, but....)
Will probably miss every Troop meeting between now and December
will attend some campouts between now and December
well liked by other Scout adult leaders in troop (not a requirement, but...)
** I am considering discussing this with him and seeing if he would like to hand-write an "appeal" letter or "please consider my case" letter to the Troop Scoutmaster