Thanks for the feedback. I am glad (well kinda) that we are not the only pack that have this problem. I can totally understand her feeling some ownership of the pack and having a hard time letting go of some control. I am sure it is just as frustrating for her as it is for us. Which leads us to a catch 22 - if we don't work through this and something happens to her then we as a pack will have a very hard time since she is the only one that knows everything there is to know about the pack however, if we push and try to help it is seen as hostile and get even more pushback and she withholds important information. Soooooooo we take our chances and hope it doesn't affect the kids in the long run? Please before anyone says go talk to your COR - we have, we have gone all the way up to the District Executive and nothing has changed the answer we get is - well it's really only policy and it looks like your pack is running smoothly from an outsider point of view. Our pack has had a Treasurer and Secretary on paper only and when we asked how we have gotten away with it for so long the only response is a shoulder shrug. BSA has policies but most of them are "recommended" and not really enforced. This is what she posted as to why we couldn't have a meeting without her:
The pack committee chair leads the pack committee and thus is responsible for the administration, oversight, and support of the pack program. The pack committee chair’s role is to
Maintain a close relationship with the chartered organization representative and the chartered organization to cultivate harmonious relations and maintain communications.
Confer with the Cubmaster on policy matters relating to Cub Scouting and the chartered organization.
Supervise pack committee operation by
Calling and presiding at pack leaders’ meetings.
Assigning duties to committee members.
Planning for pack charter review, roundup, and reregistration.
Approving bills before payment by the pack treasurer.
Conduct the annual pack program planning conference and pack leaders’ meetings
Which yes it says the CC presides over meetings but it doesn't say we cant have a meeting without her either.....