Hi all,
I need some advice on controlling my own Tiger Scout son in den meetings. At home he's pretty good, but at den meetings he doesn't let me be "the teacher" to the den. E.g., Interrupting, not listening, telling the den what to do, not letting me try to give the other Tiger Cubs equal chance to answer, etc.
This has gone on all year... not getting better.
He's a sensitive boy who is very competitive and prone to cry if he loses (we did Tiger-rific games tonight).
In all fairness though.... a) I suspect my own reaction to it is making matters worse. I'll pause the meeting to tell him 1:1 (though it ends up being in front of others) to let me be the leader or to stop talking.
b) During the winter/inside months, it's easy for me to lean more towards talking/instruction during den meetings.
After 5 months of this, I feel "stares" from the other den parents -- I wonder if they are passing judgement on me as though I'm being too harsh on my own son. (One mother is a middle school teacher).
It seems like the other parents are making great connections with one another but not with my wife and I. On the other hand, I usually get a thank you from a parent for volunteering and do occasionally hear feedback that they are very pleased with my administration and programming. (And in all honesty, I am giving it 150%).
Separately and possibly related.....
My wife and I have separately come to a common feeling of ostracization within the Pack. No connections with other parents/family outside of Pack/Den meetings.
Feeling discouraged,
Eagle1985, but newbie Den Leader
