Thank you all for the comments. I've read each and every one a couple of times and tried to envision the outcomes around next steps.
@@SSScout, thank you especially for your comments 3, and 4 (training, and remember this is for the Boys). This helps put it into perspective.
My next steps are coffee or lunch with the DC, not for how to confront, but how to try and get some guidance or advice applied from the outside. Perhaps an outsider can open some eyes and ears and help close some mouths...
I'll give this three months and after school starts see if my Boys want to consider a new troop.
Thanks again all,
Yours in scouting