Thanks Moosetracker for a fresh perspective on the question and a thought that challenges the position I've taken. Merlyn_LeRoy and I aren't going to agree, but if there is an area where the words "separate but equal" have been interpreted in a legal opinion unrelated to race, it would probably be some kind of Title IX case. I'll still contend that the common meaning of the term is the now-discredited legal doctrine of racial segregation in American government, regardless of where the term is used. I suspect a google search on the term would confirm my position.
But continued dispute about that doesn't help scouting, or even illuminate the original issue of this thread. You've done good work as a moderator in helping steer the discussion back toward the best interests of the scouts. I wonder how much the "large movement" part of scouting is really vital. I've only been in this game a few years, compared to the decades or generations of perspective other scouters bring to the table. But the benefit I've seen in my son, and I hope the benefit I might have been able to provide to other scouts, has been at a more relational, small group level. My son didn't learn his scouting skills in a group of thousands; perhaps a dozen on average. And the opportunities I've had to encourage a boy during a Board of Review or in helping with an Eagle project didn't come from scouting's written standards or the BSA national council. They were immediate things close to home, listening to what he felt he was up against and trying to share something from my own life that might inspire or clarify or encourage him.
The distinction between the national standards and the local unit will be a key to some sort of resolution on this membership proposal I think. I've certainly come to draw a stark distinction between the two. Some feel that the proposed change in national standards is a moral problem, others feel that the existing standard is a moral problem. I'm not a moderate on this, I have a definite opinion. But we all volunteer and work with actual people, not with a standard. We do have to have written standards, and they should not be ignored once adopted; scouting advocates not only morals but spirituality, so we will unavoidably have fundamental issues of potential disagreement. But if we can see scouting first as the face of a 13 year old kid learning to be self-reliant, rather than as a book of rules and standards to debate, maybe we can find our way.