Twocubdad, to answer your question, here is what my 13 year old son wants to do. He will not put on the merit badges until we as his parents feel that he has completed the requirements. I am very proud that he feels this way. The problem is that for some of these merit badges, I would not know how to make sure he does complete the requirements without spending a chunk of money on, for example, equipment to build an electricity model, something he should have gotten done at the last merit badge class for that. That was an instructor at Clemson University who was not a teenager and he still did not work on what was supposed to be the boy's hands on participation. I thought each boy was to be questioned about his knowledge of the subject matter and answer accurately before any counselor signed him off on the blue cards but that is clearly not happening. They just attend the class and get signed off. I know the leadership is aware of at least some of this due to the ridiculously high number of Eagle scouts in our troop. Some boys have so many merit badges, they are putting them on the backs of their sashes. My son may do what you suggest and give them back and state that he will would like to get them when he deserves them. The only problem is that I have already contacted the District Commissioner who is going to come to our next meeting to look into the books and merit badge advancements and talk to the leadership. He has agreed to keep me anonymous so I won't be labeled as the "troublemaker" but if my son gives back his merit badges, they will likely know I am the culprit. If nothing is done, I am not sure we will stay in Scouts but might still use the merit badge books for personal learning. I just have no desire to look for a 4th Troop.
Moosetracker, I cannot imagine why, if there were an online database of merit badge counselors, they would not even want their email addresses revealed. That makes no sense to me. If a MBC does not want to be contacted, what is the point of him being a MBC?