I've tried to search for this topic but can't really think of key words to look for, so I'm starting a new thread.
We have a pack of ~60 scouts, the vast majority of which are active and engaged. Many are involved with sports; some missed den and pack meetings are no big deal.
But we had one family sign-on as Tigers in September and the dad even volunteered to be an Assistant Den Leader. They paid their dues and were VERY active until around Thanksgiving, when they just disappeared off the planet. No e-mails, no den meetings, no responses, nothing. Then the father came back and said they were "busy with hockey" and would "be back in the spring". They didn't even attend our Blue & Gold banquet last week where all the ranks received their badges.
So what's the general response to this? Having missed many den meetings and activities, does the scout "deserve" the Tiger badge? What happens if they come back for a few meetings and then decide to take up baseball and disappear again?
I realize some families consider scouting can be "part time" since the parents sign-off on achievements and also some sports coaches can say, "be at every practice or you're out" but how do you emphasize the balance needed between both? I don't think this family has anything against the pack, I just think they thought they'd take up something else; maybe the son doesn't want to come to the meetings but the dad wants to give it another try. It's hard to get to the truth when there's no communication.
The last family that was this way were coming back as Bears last September, but were always very late in paying their dues - as late as January and February. They showed up once in September then disappeared "due to football commitments" but were going to "come back after the season". The father loved the Pinewood Derby races so it almost seemed like they would only come back just for that. The den leaders were pretty miffed at this because it screwed up scheduling, planning, dividing up responsibilities (bringing snacks, paying den dues, etc.) I had to tell the family in October, "poop or get off the pot" and well, they chose football. Part of me felt guilty but at the same time, I felt like we were standing up for scouting, and weren't going to be seen as a come-and-go-as-you-please hobby.
Thoughts and advice appreciated.
ENV