Okay, I do not have the site but my father/ scoutmaster printed off some stuff about the tapout ceremony and there are guidelines.
Many Lodges have developed call-out ceremonies for use for Ordeal membership or the Vigil Honor. This recognition has been purposefully left in the hands of the lodge. All other ceremonies are prescribed nationally.
1, The Candidates and teh audience of youths, parents, and leaders should be made aware of the importance of the honor being given.
2, The name and unit number of each candidate should be announced clearly.
3, The ceremony should be conducted with dignity. Rough stuff, kneeling, hazing, and/or any other kind of physical or psychological abuse is forbidden in any Order of the Arrow ceremony or activity.
4, Call-out ceremonies should be held in public at evening retreat ceremony or at a special gathering of all the Scouts and Scouters in the camp. Other sites could be at mealtime in the dining hall, at campfire areas, or other suitable places and occasions.
5, Ceremonies should be dignified and impressive. They should have an American Indian theme with campfires, tom-toms, and American Indian dancing to supplement, but not overwhelm, the honor.
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Brian