San DiegoSuzie

littlebillie poor choice of words, sorry! rookie mistake...I didn't mean to imply that other parenting decisions in this situation are not possible or valid, of course they are. kwc57 provided a much more eloquent (and clear) post in line with what I was trying to convey. I doubt seriously that anyone who has posted in support of keeping this young woman on in the troop/crew thinks that her pregnancy is something the kids would (or should!) look upon positively, and if she were trying to portray it as such then my opinion would certainly change. What they CAN look on positively is their troop leaders' compassion and support for a young person who made a very serious mistake and now is trying (I can only assume) to "straighten up and fly right". Our troop had a young man drop out last year, we've heard from older scouts who attend the same school that he's fallen in with a pretty rough crowd, is probably using drugs, etc. etc. The SM has communicated with him and expressed his concern, and has also let him know that when he's ready to get back on track we'll be there for him. Seems like a very similar situation...would any of you disagree with our willingness to accept and support him if and when he decides to turn his life around? Suzie

matuawarrior, I'm brand new to this site, I hope you don't mind me throwing my two cents in (seems like a lot of you folks have some interesting history here I just wanted to commend you for your decision to keep this young person on in ANY capacity. I think it's important to recognize that as a very young (and obviously quite immature) woman, her continued association with the organization will provide positive role models for her as well, something she needs now more than ever. As to the concerns of some parents that she'll be a poor role model, I think they're 1) underestimating their kids and 2) missing the boat on a parenting opportunity. Based on my experience with my own two teens, I've found that situations like these have provided some of our best "teaching moments" and allowed an opportunity to discuss heavy topics like premarital sex, personal responsibility, etc. that my kids would ordinarily rather lose a thumb than talk to me about. Suzie