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1. If you are burnt out, everybody loses. Encourage someone to step up as DL 2. If boys are awarded without even trying, everybody loses. Trust your first instincts and set things right. Parents who complain about #2, direct them to #1. Remind them that what you had before may be why your membership is what it is.

I dunno. If a parent were available, I'd love to talk to him or her before hand. Just to know how things are going or let them know of how proud we are of their son. We're pretty informal in these parts. It's in our culture to let everyone who wants to say something have a say. So, we'd never think there would be anything wrong with having a conversation with the parents. We're usually reading their letter of recommendation anyway.(Remember this town has a history of closed doors leading to massive job losses. See other topics on letters of recommendation.) I don't know if that's the attitude of @@zuzy's committee. But I certainly don't find it as peculiar as others do.

The venturing program is the one natural experiment. And I weight those higher than polls.Then there's local experience. Maybe yours is different. Do you have more parents asking you about mixed programs over traditional models?

So I'm spinning off that "Big Question" thread about some BoR using a "trick question" about wearing your uniform in school. Seems that it was isolated to one unit, and most of us agree that it was a good thing that other BoRs didn't use it. Anyway the discussion turned to taking flack for wearing your uniform, something I never had a problem with, but others had. Well, thinking about it, there were some things I did take flack for: Being friends with the new kid, who couldn't keep his skin clean. Striking up a conversation with the "dumb girl". Having the audacity to try out for stage band freshman year. Being kind to that cheerleader who everyone knew was sleeping around. Wearing a uniform one day a year was hardly going to get me in any more trouble with people who wanted to dish it out.

And, there are SM assigned leadership projects. It astounds me that so many of these "high speed, low drag" parents or youth aren't pounding down the SM's door begging to do one of these. Rally some scouts, do the job (paint the scout house, collect old gear, dry some venison for the next campout cracker barrel ...) , mark zero time, have a blast at the next MB pow-wow, count the days from e last BoR, schedule SMC+BoR to the day, advance one rank. Nothing could be easier except, I don't know, maybe sewing on a pretty patch and making plans to do nothing for it. 8-)

I'm finding that's a VERY hard transition if they weren't already active in the crew.

Go ahead, bring your pop-up camper. We're hiking five miles through rocks and bogs to pitch our tent. No motorized vehicles, so have fun dragging it. Seriously, if I can get physical distance between the adult sites and the boys ... I'm not gonna sweat the one-off anxious kid who has to hike the hundred yards to us to talk to mom or dad. Son #2 did just that in the middle of the night (?early morning?) on his first camp-out after crossing over. I tucked him in beside me thinking that it would probably be the last time. It was.

This is where the SPL should be able to talk to the SM in a couple months and ask the SM if he can replace his QM or ASPL or any position in which the boy holding it is marking time. I do have a problem with rank determining position. In your son's case, he either has to help one of his patrol mates make rank, recruit a scout from another patrol, or hold a second PoR. If neither of those options is apparent, when that time comes he should discuss options with the SM. If he can point to a perfectly good tenderfoot scout in his patrol, he should encourage the SM to bend the troop rules. In fact, he should ask the SM which page in the handbook says his patrol's preferred leader has to make rank before earning his position.

From one to 1000 in 10 years. Nothing to sneeze at. The next decade's progress will speak volumes.

Happy Birthday, survival is a good thing! Especially if it comes with a wide-brimmed hat!

Yep, mom guilt! It all goes downhill from there. It is the award that counts. That is, the little rectangular patch. But, ask your son what he thinks. Explain it in terms he understands. E.g., 4 plaques vs. 4 pizzas with ice-cream. Alternatives to plaques: A picture of the boys, maybe when they were tigers stamp the AOL symbol. Each boy signs it. A neckerchief with an iron-on transfer of the boys' picture and some kind words. Each boy signs it. An AoL stamp. Have fun, and congratulations to your son.

I'm guessing because I don't hold the troop's roster and the numbers have been fluctuating: 35 scouts 2 ASM (plus this Crew advisor who wanders in on random occasions ) 3 ASM emeritus 1 SM 6 Committee members, as many more parents who will pitch in when asked. 1 Elusive CO rep 4 Venturers, who, although not Unit Scouter Reserve or ASM, would pitch in in a heartbeat if needed and time allowed.

Zuzyson, huzzah! @, many councils (like ours) comprise their EBoR's mainly of troop committee members with one district representative who coaches committee members on appropriate questions, the goals of the review, etc .... Other's comprise them entirely of district representatives, typically from the advancement committee. In both cases, the board may be referred to as a committee. The SM, sometimes the parent, introduces the scout to the committee and waits outside. The sash really wasn't necessary, but I can see how, if the guy in front of you has his, you'll feel naked without yours.

Generally, the way @@thrifty's troop does it is pretty much the documented standard. Every SM will vary that based on the facts on the ground. Some variations are more productive than others. Well, it's kind of like why we don't have a say in the president elect's cabinet. If he/she winds up surrounded by idiots, it's his on him. If every officer were elected by popular or representative voting, well then it would be the electorate's fault for crippling the presiding officer. And OA ... it seems like a formality until your "borderline" kid steps forward for election. Maybe you don't have that 1st class scout who got it in his head that he can be all high-and-mighty to the crossovers. But, when you do, and he gets voted down ... three years consecutively ... its a beauty to watch his behavior change once he dries up his tears.

True it's no big deal, but there's this "Do your best" motto that's kind of a nag. Does the boy still have his handbooks? That's the first thing you should ask. Anything worth earning should have been signed off there.That little exercise will help prepare him for taking charge of his own progress. Then, just look at his uniform. Have him bring in whatever he's bling he has managed to keep. What pins does he have? Make this fun for the boys. Have his den help you identify anything on his uniform that will help "set the record straight"! Then give him a "welcome back" patch. (I'm sure by now you have a few spares from past events that he might have missed.) Sure you could drop a line to some other council HQ and try and chase paper. But where's the fun in that?

Well, the other data point is from the US. Venturing has had a boom and bust cycle. So you might conclude that adding girls might give you some growth out of the novelty of the thing, then membership will plummet faster than any other. Of course, boys have the option of dropping out of venturing quite readily. So, there's no way of telling what they would do if they didn't like going coed but the segregated option was not readily available. You could write the Baden-Powell Service Association and ask them to publish their membership statistics. But it speaks volumes that they have no recent press releases touting a groundswell in membership. I have no data-driven reason to believe that going co-ed will increase membership, let alone stop BSA's losses. In America there are some parents who would love their kids to have a co-ed scouting experience, but they are far outnumbered by parents who love the segregated model. Think about it, we here a story about one cluster of girls that appeals to participate in the MB program or one CO who encourages segregated unites to work together to the point they are co-ed on all but paper in the ENTIRE nation. As cool as we are, the ladies simply are no knocking down our doors to get in, and our boys aren't holding them open. I figure any gains in membership that may be had, would not be had for decades. Could that outlook change in a couple years? Maybe. But that would require unforeseen factors.

The Eagle Huntress (http://sonyclassics.com/theeaglehuntress/) just made it to our independent theater. I was very impressed. It's an ideal movie for young venturing youth. It would be great for Troops, but not so much if your boys have trouble reading subtitles and speak neither Kazakh nor Arabic. Also, if your people have qualms about skinning and butchering animals, you may want to give them a heads up. The heroin is a 13 year old Mongolian. Her father is her sidekick. I think any dad who has taken his daughter hunting (or in my case, tracking) will really appreciate this one. It's also a great way to get psyched for winter camping! Of course it's an added bonus is when, after the closing credits, you can walk across the aisle to the families with three young girls, say, "Would you guys like to see an Eagle feather?" And pull the one you found on your last hike out of your wide-brimmed leather hat.

Okay, first I don't equate learning with getting some lecture. The first thing I remember doing with my BSHB was opening to the knots section, going to the garage, getting some rope, and trying to tie half hitches according to the pictures. This is probably why I don't believe in the EDGE method. Explanations came later ... not until camp. I see scouts coming into the troop (venturers into the crew as well), and they are there because they want to accomplish something ... not necessarily check things off of a list. They read or saw something, maybe heard a tale from an older scout. And they want to do that. Then they want to do it better (longer, higher altitude, with just a tarp, across big water, under open sky, helping more people). In their minds, learning is part of the fun. Those are the ones who become first class scouts (the concept, not the patch).

One year, my wife got me a coat, with a pocket in the sleeve of the outer-liner. Put my cell-phone in it. What does this have to do with co-ed? Not much, except one female advisor who helped me chaperon my crew on a winter backpacking trip who was duly impressed when I answered the phone without unzipping my jacket. BSA - all the right pockets on all the wrong gear.

Usually my ASM role at camp is something like: 1. Provide SPL/PL maps and suggest gear for the weekend's activities ... just enough for them to improvise from there. 2. Figure out a suitable distraction for the adults ("Hey, would you like to peruse the camp facilities?", or "I brought my pizzelle iron, lets make some treats while the boys hike/fish/get the provisions we didn't buy for them/play capture the flag".) 3. If the crew is nearby, I might suggest something in-between. ("Hey, why don't you find the ranger and ask to see his motorcycle collection? You might help him tune an engine. If scouts find you and are bothersome, let them know that the adults are making pizzelles and preparing to eat them all.")

For the sake of Yanks still wondering what's so funny: On the west side of the pond, we call that prophet "I zay yah" On the east side, they call him "I sigh ah".

Well, if people have been "above board" among themselves, and someone says, "We need to change because sooner or later your $s are gonna walk away." They will take it as a false accusation or at best a vote of no confidence. How do you react when falsely accused or declared good for nothing?

Get the CC to rally the parents for you. Commit to training. Tell the boys you expect them to do the same. You've seen on this blog that there is plenty of good advice for nearly every problem an SM has had.

Welcome to the forums! Some trust issues going on here. If you're getting this much push-back, apologize to your people and move on. It will spare you a lot of extra work. If someone eventually walks away with den dollars, you just say "sorry about that. nothing I can do. Ask some other den to float you something from their tin." Thanks for your service to the boys.

I think I'm in the "learn" camp. Scouts are constantly learning. As a result they discover new ways to have fun. Boys who aren't learning aren't scouting. As a result they miss out on all the fun.