Wow, sorry I created so much controversy. Good to see (not really good) that others suffer with the same problems.
Jet, I liked what you said. I think in many instances the parents need a wake up call. There are no free lunches, so to speak. I think part of my problem is frustration with the parents sitting back and watching the committee put on a great scouting program for the kids and not getting involved.
I also agree with eamonn, some tact is needed, but when it comes down to it, we live and die on parental involvment. If the "right" person cant be found then we have to work with what we have or start cutting out the dead wood. Sounds harsh, not what is best for the pack, but something has to give. Sounds like there are no easy answers.
As far as our DE, he is pretty green. Our 3rd DE in a year and a half. I found out he is streched thin with many programs to oversee. This just isnt going to a simple conversation with a couple of parents.
Thanks so much for responding. Good luck to all of you.