Ok, I surrender I wear an earring, fought for my country, ride motorcycles, have a pony tail, am a non conformist, smoke and drink. What does that make me AN AMERICAN. I don't smoke nor will a scout ever smell alcohol on my breath. The boys in the troop now I do both.
Their Parents trust me to take care of the boys when gone on hikes, campouts, and other activities. When I wear the uniform and am with the boys I have everything where it belongs. My uniform is clean and pressed and the gig line is straight. there are no flags around the pockets and my hair is combed and in a ponytail. The earring is a small gold hoop that I am proud to wear, I earned it sailing the Seven Seas of Sinbad.
As for being a nonconformist. Yes I am I cannot help but to be because I am an American. I was taught to lead by example. So be it the boys in my troop don't come to meetings in baggy jeans. although they did at one time. I showed them that they might be cool but they were not made to go pushing thru the brush to get to a remote campsite.
Instead of trying to push the boys to do what you want do what we are supposed to do as leaders and advise. Most boys that I know of will do if you suggest and not try to tell them to do something .
My 2 cents worth..