Thanks to all of you for your insight on this issue.
I'm the Wolf den leader for 11 active second graders* (up from 8 Tigers last year). I never received much guidance in terms of meeting frequency from other leaders, so last year in Tigers we met three times a month (one pack meeting, one den meeting, one Go-See-It). This may be standard practice, but thinking back 30 years to my time in Cub Scouting, it didn't seem like enough. It must have been fine in our case, though, because all of the Tigers except one, who moved away, are now Wolves.
Now, with more achievements to be completed, I feel like we need more meetings to share all of these activities with the boys. As a benchmark, I look at what my oldest son did last year in Wolves, with a different leader. They met only twice a month, INCLUDING the pack meeting, and are now down to five Bears this year.
So I made an executive decision: this year, Wednesdays are Cub Scout nights. Pack meetings have always been on Wednesdays, so we'll fill in all or most of the other non-holiday Wednesdays with den meetings or activities. Meetings will be short (this week's was just over an hour) to appeal to a second-grader's attention span and bedtime. I'm crossing my fingers that this will work out, and that parents won't consider a weekly commitment too much.
[*] I may post more on this later, but I've decided not to ask the pack to add another Wolf den. Eleven boys is certainly more than the ideal den size, but if we split, one den would have only five boys, which seems small to me. I also (knock on wood) have some very committed parents, including a new ADL who seems to be working out very well. Wish us luck!
- jethro.