I kind of stumbled across this post looking for something else and I'm kind of amazed. I guess I lucked out and got the 9 best parents in the world. I'm a new TC Den Leader and at our very first meeting I set out the expectations. Parents will take part in every meeting, we will rotate meetings at everyone's house, we will do the go-see-its in addition to den and pack meetings, and we will share the costs of any supplies. Not one parent had any problems with any of that.
Our 9 Tigers have completed every Family Activity, we've completed 2 Den Activities, and we have all of the go-see-its scheduled. We also just got back from our family overnight campout where 6 of the 9 Tigers and parents attended.
Like I said I guess I'm lucky or I was wise to set the expectations early. I also told each and every one of them that I was a rookie too, and my job was merely to report to the pack. We lead our Tigers as a group and make sure they all have fun and grow together.
Good luck to everyone and have fun!!!