You keep typing you are going to "train" the leadership of these troops to deal with your son. Did you ever think they don't want to be trained? They have no obligation to be trained, your family is the one who needs to make the big adjustment. You're doing more harm than good by forcing your son into these situations. Your son has special needs like a lot of children; he and his needs are your responsibilty. You cannot force others to make accomodations, or attend to his needs because you want to let him spread his wings, and cry foul when they don't practice the "training" you gave them. Before you tell me I don't understand, I do. My wife and I adopted all three our children through foster care, all three have special needs. WE adjusted, and made the first concessions. As much as we would loved a break for the weekend while she went camping with Girl Scouts, it wasn't a reality.