Eagledad

My thoughts are little different Eamonn. I look back on myself when I was young and dont remember looking up at the trees and sky while I was backpacking. I dont remember the smell of the woods or the quiet of the morning as the light fog faintly hung over the field of wild flowers. Did my scouts, my sons, see the romance of men casting flies in the stream as they sought the elusive trout? Are young eager teenagers capable of stopping to watch such things in the background of green mountains or emerald blue lakes? God has a purposeful design of man. I think maybe you didnt go wrong, you just havent seen the plan blossom into its fullness yet. There is more of you in him than you think. Barry

>>I did of course check this out before plans got made for the trip. As we are going to commercial outfitters, this is not going to be a problem taking our 12-13 year old Scouts. It's a good thing too because we only have two Scouts 14 or over right now!

>>How far do you let boy-led go? Well I think you set the parameters: here's what we (adults) can support. And then you let them fill in the details.... Sometimes we have to make choices.

I have to commend you for your patience. I think you will see a change with in a year, two at most, as he is goes through his physical and mental changes. He is turning into a man and self evaluation in the world is part of that change. Sounds like you are part of a really good troop because in my experience, maturity is based a lot from the experience of the earlier years and if a lot of scouts are accelerating through advancement after age 13 as you say, they are having great experiences. As a mother looking ahead, Im sure this is pretty tough. As someone who watches mothers looking 5 to 10 years back, you will find it all worth it. I love this scouting stuff. Barry

I was thinking tho, is there a time when attendance requirements are important, like safety? Our troop does a lot of High Adventure and we usually spend a lot of time preparing for the trips. We usually highly express the participants (adults and scouts) attend the different sessions to get prepared. While I want to say the participation is given in the text of requirements, we have never asked anyone to leave a crew. However, there are several times I think we should have. Problem is you get into the back country and you are stuck. In just about every case I look back on where a Crew member (adult and scout) didnt have good over all experience, it was usually a direct result of not being prepared because they had missed several trek preparation activities. I did get a lot better at training participants and preparing them what was to come, but there is still always that person who has good reasons to miss the preparation. Im more philosophical in my nature and how I approach scouting, so I am rarely hard nosed about things like age, rank and attendance requirements. But experience is showing me that this is one place I think attendance requirements are needed, if for nothing else, life and death. Barry

>>And, as my husband tells me often, we wouldn't be where we are today if you didn't have the vision of what this troop should be. So, my question: Is it OK for the SM to take care more of the indoor part of the program (leadership training, mentoring, conferences, etc.) and leave the outdoor part to the other adults?

>>Leaders lead and follower make excusses.

>>I don't buy the morality argument because while some people seem to need their values dictated by a rule book, others can reason their way to the same values with no rule book.

>>Actually, the purpose of the cuss cup is to deter cussing. And in all the years we have used it, the cussing as decreased to the point of it no longer being necessary.

I have observed in my own experiences and watching PLCs that generally attendance requirements are an easy attempt for lesser experienced leaders to fix difficult problems. But as the leadership gets more experienced and more skilled at their jobs, the attendance requirements go away. Looking back on it, I dont have a problem with some level of attendance requirements for that reason (with in reason). Its kind of like developing a program using JLT. The BSA JLT (TLT) course isnt really all that good, but is a good start for new troops trying to bring JLTs into their program. If our troop has attendance requirements, they were from way way back when. If they are still there, it is only because no one has taken the time to edit them out of the job requirements. Neither the adults nor the PLC have needed to use required attendance for a long time. Barry

>>Mike went on to earn his Eagle & we never had another problem like this again.

>>Or we can just chalk up scout spirit as an ideal to be reached, as defined by the scout and coached by the leadership.

>>Pint- you should have spoken to the toilet-tongued Scouts immediately after using those words and not when you got to a clearing. That gives anyone who may have heard the impression that that behavior is condoned by the troop.

>>He has supposedly changed his mind recently and does want the Eagle award himself, but has failed to show "scout spirit" in any form.

>>By erecting an impermeable barrier between themselves and those on the outside of the social group, people highlight differences and obscure similarities (Think: We dont allow black people in our country club, even if they, like us, are wealthy and have Ivy League degrees).

>>Some people question the wisdom of having a "core component" that is, at best, vague to the point of meaninglessness ("My god is this rock!" "You're in!"), and at worst, divisive .....

The same basis as you, reading the accounts and watching the news. That was some years ago, but I seem to remember it all started when they were cubs. They were forced out of the program when they were teenagers. Just how many boys in Cubs would go that far because they object to some part of the program? Boys don't think that way and don't have that kind of power. It was an adult thing. And as for the BSA wanting them out, well sure, anyone when push comes to shove and every move they made was watched, recorded and scrutinized, you are forced to make the hard decisions. They were left with no choice, but I am sure that was a lot of effort to keep the boys in and prevent the situation from turning into the event it had. Boys don't have that kind of power. So far that is two boys in one family you can think of, who else? How many boys does anyone know that werent given the scouting experience because they hadnt committed to god? I personally know of several scouts who didnt know, but everyone was willing to let them have the scouting experience to learn. Most folks involved with the BSA are good noble folks, it just those self-serving few adults with a point to make that are willing to throw out the baby with the bath water. Barry

>>The well-known cases like Rick Sherman, the Randall twins, and Remington Powell are well-known only because they were reported by the media. I've seen a few anecdotal cases on the web where people have stated that they (or a friend) were thrown out for being atheists.

>>The tenderfoot requirement is a cubscout refresher. Now I don't have a problem with this because all new scouts will be brought to the same level. Plus, when teaching math for example, each progression is a mix of old and new stuff. But I could see where if these requirements didn't have some freshness to a scout he could get bored.

I hate to say it, but how about adult training for JLT. Our Council created a three hour adult course given on the last day of JLTC. Theoretically an adult had to sign up for the class for any of their scouts to qualify for the JLTC course. The course spent time in three areas: Boy Run, Aims and Methods and How to help their Scout Impliment New Ideas They Learned During The JLTC Course. Leadership Development was the main objective during the course. It was a big hit and we had several units sent their whole committee when they learned about it. Barry

>>What is the benefit to a boy who is excluded because of his religious faith or worse, the faith of his parents? The absence of answers is, in fact, the answer: None.

I once lost a whole den of first year scouts in three months. They knew their scouts skills better then my second year scouts and were bored in our troop. They weren't trouble maker type kids, but you know how it goes with students that need to bumped up a couple grades. I would be better prepared for a group like that next time. An additional problem with overly prepared Webelos is they have to be mixed with other not so prepared Webelos. I would much rather have new boys who have never camped over Webelos who camped every month for the past two years. I wrote about this a few weeks ago, but I think preparing Webelos should have to do more with getting them comfortable in front of strangers and not being afraid of new challenges. Barry

What is worse, at least in our district, less than half will join a troop. Barry

>>Part of the "Blame?" lies in the fact that many come from Troops where the POR's are filled with PW's (Patch Wearers)

Two things: How good where these scouts at planning before they joined the Ship. Is that a correct phrase? I found that older who hadn't been around planning much have a very hard time with it. If that if the case, then assume they need to learn the skill first. So chop up the planning in smaller bites. Teach them the over all plan (menu) and repeat it all the time so that they learn the big picture. But let them do the plan in smaller bites. Maybe assign each person a small part or take on only a couple parts. That will allow you to fill in blanks and keep momentum going. Do you have a simple formula to do a plan that you can repeat at the top of your head? Second, have you tried bribery? Tell them you are providing pizza and pop at the next planning meeting. That sure works for me. You can even go as far as doing a movie, but the planning has to be completed by a certain time to make the movie. I am not assuming this is a fix all, just trying add a few ideas. BArry