JPS- Interesting question, one I have had to wrestle with myself. I was my Son's Cubmaster and am now the Scoutmaster for his troop. I am an Eagle Scout and had some great experiences as a youth ('77 Jamboree, High adventure trips, etc.) I have finally trained myself to stop saying "this is how I did it" or "this is what we did in my old troop" and substitute with "what do you want to do?" or "how or what does your patrol want to do?". The Scouts (and my Son) develop confidence as they discover and find their own way without us leaders constantly hovering over them waiting to pounce and fix things. Sometimes the result is not pretty (down right messy at times) but it is worth it to see them conquer a problem in their own style. A far as mentoring my Son goes I always take a deep breath and say "slow down". I became an Eagle Scout five days before my 18th birthday and enjoyed every minute of it. I keep telling him that Scouting is not a race (and ultimately, it may not be for him). Nobody is a better Scout because they have more merit badges or acheived a rank at an earlier age than somebody else. I try very hard to let him choose his pace and experiences, i.e if he doesn't want to do it then he doesn't have to (campouts, service projects, meetings, etc.) sometimes it drives me crazy but it is HIS Scouting experience NOT mine.