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#21 blw2

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Posted 18 August 2017 - 10:24 AM

yeah, much of the things mentions don't happen

patrols having a place

patrols not meeting

patrols not competing

 

And when teh patrols do meet....it's to plan menu for campout, or to give the concept lip service....

 

........ However, we (the adults) have started requiring that they have at least 3 or 4 meetings where they practice scout skills in some way. ......

This is a great example of something that does get done...but at a level that I would call lip service at best....

I have observed a few times when the SPL will call out "tonight, we will work on xyx"

it's usually something like...help the new scouts with knots

or, practice 1st aid skills....

Then it becomes a re-hash of things they have heard a thousand times.  I remember watching a 1st aid one once when my son was still barely out of WEBELOS.... he had already sat through the same lecture and the same minimal hands on exercises probably 20 times before already....through multiple cub meetings, at webelos camps, 1st aid merit badge at summer camp... etc....  

Result:  IMMEDIATE glossy eyes.

 

problems include

"adults requiring it" and their hearts aren't into it

no inspiration

they really don't know what to do to step it to the next level, so they just do what they've seen before....


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#22 Ankylus

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Posted 18 August 2017 - 03:14 PM

yeah, much of the things mentions don't happen

patrols having a place

patrols not meeting

patrols not competing

 

And when teh patrols do meet....it's to plan menu for campout, or to give the concept lip service....

 

This is a great example of something that does get done...but at a level that I would call lip service at best....

I have observed a few times when the SPL will call out "tonight, we will work on xyx"

it's usually something like...help the new scouts with knots

or, practice 1st aid skills....

Then it becomes a re-hash of things they have heard a thousand times.  I remember watching a 1st aid one once when my son was still barely out of WEBELOS.... he had already sat through the same lecture and the same minimal hands on exercises probably 20 times before already....through multiple cub meetings, at webelos camps, 1st aid merit badge at summer camp... etc....  

Result:  IMMEDIATE glossy eyes.

 

problems include

"adults requiring it" and their hearts aren't into it

no inspiration

they really don't know what to do to step it to the next level, so they just do what they've seen before....

 

I don't contest anything you say here. But, we do implement it a little different than you envision.  For example, we don't just "tie knots". For example, we once had a SAR specialist from the Coast Guard come out and teach SAR to th boys. He had a prepared survival at sea scenario in which the scout role played. Or, for rope work, we might have a knot relay where each scout ties a different knot in succession and we see which team finishes first. 

 

And even if the older scouts are less than inspired, I find that anything where they get up and do stuff is better received than another speaker.

 

With rare exception. One of the best received speakers we have had in recent years was a retired welder. He didn't weld trailer frames or anything. More like warships and bridges. And he told the boys about the discrimination he had faced from the union and from employers because he was black. He explained how his ticket was his excellence in his craft. He also talked about his impoverished childhood in the rural South and his journey out of it. Really a fascinating speaker. We couldn't get the scouts to quit asking questions. 

 

From a welder. The astronaut didn't get half as much response. You never know.


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#23 HelpfulTracks

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Posted 19 August 2017 - 09:01 PM

blw2 - may I make a suggestion? That is if you still want to give scouting a try.

 

Based what you have said, you son has friends in the troop, possibly his patrol.

 

Have a patrol day outing, away from the troop. Let the boys decide what it will be, a backyard cookout, bike riding, swimming, whatever......if they plan it, or make it up as they go, they will likely have fun, and if you son is having fun, I bet you will too. Maybe mix in a few scouts from another patrol, particularly if you son's friends are in those patrols.

 

Are you are a registered scouter, or are friends with one in the troop? If so, after a few good day outings, get the boys to plan an overnight. Again, whatever they want (as long as it is within BSA policy).  The boys will start to figure out that they can make the troop just as much fun and start stepping up to do that. Just be ready to have their back if they get adult push back. A simple "let the boys have a shot at things there way" will probably work. Odds are your son is not alone in the way he feels about the troop. So if a enough of them start to figure out how things should work, then they will start to make changes.

 

For my son it was OA that opened his eyes. He was having fun with the troop, and we (adult leaders) were trying to move the troop toward boy led. But they were just not catching on (likely our fault, not theirs). But OA showed him what boy led really meant. He took that lesson back to his troop and it spread like wildfire. It really just takes one or two scouts to start moving things in the right direction, others will follow if they see they are having fun. If you have some stubborn adult leaders, you may need to step up and help them make their case, but boy led is the BSA way, so there really isn't an argument against it.

 

That said, scouting just not what some boys want, and that is okay too. If scouting isn't for him, help him explore other options.

 

Hopefully Helpful Tracks


Edited by HelpfulTracks, 19 August 2017 - 09:05 PM.

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#24 blw2

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Posted 21 August 2017 - 02:36 PM

yes ankylus, i have seen some of those things such as knot relay.  In my thinking some of those types of things could really spice things up.

I've even tried to put a bug in son's ear a few times to take it back to the scouts.  He was even PL for a time, in the "NSP"...but he was young and not assertive in the PLC.  In fact the way he tells it they blew him off about a thing or two, so he didn't bother with any more suggesting....

 

And I have suggested patrol outings and activities man times too helpfultracks.... again, he was never very assertive.  Honestly, I don't think he ever really bought into the idea.

 

 

blw2 - may I make a suggestion? That is if you still want to give scouting a try.

 

 

I'm not quitting exactly....not yet anyway.  I guess when i made this post originally, i meant that more in the context that I give up caring so passionately  anymore.  I'm very interested in scouting, doing scouting stuff, and I continue to be very interested in what scouting "could be" for my son.

 

Yes, I'm registered as a scouter.  I have bled scouting for something like 6-1/2 years now....  I wore just about all the hats at the pack level at one time or another, and with the troop now, I'm treasurer.... not because that's what i wanted to do, it what the CC needed.  I'm fully trained as a SM (according to the BSA's requirements anyway)

 

I've even suggested a few times to my son that he might consider trying to pull together a patrol campout or outing...and maybe I would be happy to help do a backpacking trip or other thing if they wanted to work that through the troop and the SM.


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#25 Stosh

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Posted 21 August 2017 - 05:38 PM

Blew off the NSP?  That's a great idea for the new boys orienting them to the "smokey backroom" of how things work in the troop.  In my troop the PL's are in charge and when we had a PLC, no one blew off anyone.  It was a time to let the other PL's know what's going on in each patrol and if there's any concerns they are passed to the SPL to take care of.  Otherwise the patrols ran their own show.  No PLC ever dared "dictate" anything to a PL or patrol.  4 Patrols all want to go to a different summer camp?  Not a problem, the SPL either makes it work or the PL's get another SPL.  Not a problem.  A non-functional SPL would get rotated out in a heartbeat if he ever "blew off" a PL, especially the NSP PL.


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#26 Mom2a

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Posted 01 September 2017 - 06:13 PM

I'm late in commenting but please take your son to visit other troops. My family recently moved forcing us to find a new troop. Oldest son is a die hard scout, youngest I really feared he would want to quit. Our old troop was okay but didn't really work the program the way it was designed. Older scouts not very welcoming or interested in teaching younger scouts. No patrol activity outside of the weekly patrol meetings. We visited several troops in our new community. Went back for a second visit with our top pick and my youngest yells across the room during their patrol time, " When are we joining this troop? This is where I want to be." I literally drug him to meetings last year. This year he is dressed in uniform and ready to go 30 minutes before we need to leave to get to a meeting every single week. Oldest son feels respected and valued even though most of his patrol members are at least a couple years older than him.

fwiw, the cooking, family life and pet care merit badge all lessened my workload as the mom in our house.
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#27 Phrogger

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Posted 10 September 2017 - 12:54 PM

Agree with your son that troop meetings are a lot more boring than pack meetings. I was a cub den leader and we always had advancement activities planned, games, songs, crafts, etc. Now the boys just talk about the next campout. My son can't wait to quit. It's torture taking him to meetings because he fights me. I have other parents telling me to try a different troop but I can't see how it would be different.


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