Ok guys, I really need a pep talk. Spouse and I are about ready to walk away from den leadership thanks to the pack committee. The new CC/Den Leader has been slowly putting all her family & den parents into committee--There is currently only one committee member not from her Den. She now is trying to control every aspect of the pack. She chooses all the committee members, she gets to determine what the pack does and does not do, and just generally tries to boss everyone around about everything. She hoards information so other leaders don't know what is going on. Simple things like obtaining extra sign up forms or ordering B uniforms do not get done for months, if at all. It is not just being ineffective, she is actively being an obstacle to doing things (she does not want the pack to be in the local parade--who is opposed to being in a parade??)
We heard the unit commissioner as well as a district rep was going to come in and straighten things out, and we had hope. Yeah, they changed a few things, but basically rubber stamped most everything CC has done. She still has her committee majority, still gets to be on pack bank account of which her lives-out-of-town daughter is treasurer, still gets to keep everything she does in the dark as the unit commissioner refused to let anyone who was not a committee member even observe the meeting. She does have to give up being Den Leader (apparently on the charter we put down the name of parent who has not been involved, did not know his name was listed, but had wanted the job until the CC had taken it).
We just don't know what to do with this. We are honestly pretty disgusted by the whole situation. We have a great den, both boys and parents, and we have fun and do fun things. But part of us thinks life is too short to deal with a situation like this. We have been supporting the den ourselves, as the pack does not provide any resources or materials other than a den leaders guide. This has been to the tune of hundreds of dollars, since the pack also has no camping supplies or camp kitchen to help on outings. We love working with our boys, but equally dread every time we have to interact with the Committee (which is anytime we want to do anything not at our building, as field trips have to be approved by the committee).
There is no other pack to join for 10 miles in any direction (rural area). We have the resources to commute, but many in our den probably do not. If we leave, we worry the den will fall apart--something similar happened to an older den when their leader quit without being replaced for months, and the den went from 15 to 5 scouts. But dealing with the unit leadership is single-handedly causing us Hypertention and ulcers.
We are at a bit of a loss as what to do. Can you transfer an entire den from one pack to another (any of those wanting to go anyway)? Can you have den meetings in one city while having pack meetings in another? We want to honor our commitment to the boys, but are beginning to doubt our ability to even do so here. We really had hope the unit commissioner would help, but she would not even talk to anyone not in "leadership" (apparently DL's don't count). The new District executive is apparently buds with the CC, COR is very hands off, and probably only hears what CC wants him to hear. Part of us would really love to get this situation fixed so he boys can have the scouting experience they deserve, but frankly, the deck just feels too stacked at this point.
Anybody deal with a situation like this?