Children, like any other person, have skills and talents that over the course of time are slowly developed. Whether it be a skill, a relationship, or plan for their future.
My youngest daughter did well in school. People talk about left brain/right brain fostering either strong artistic abilities vs.strong analytical abilities. Well, she was endowed with both. She is a fantastic artist. I have a great piece of her work hanging in my living room right now. She has performed many times in high school and community theater productions. And yet she won the over all school award for Mathematics and graduated Valedictorian of her class, a large class from a large high school. She won a full ride scholarship for electrical engineering at Marquette University. Yet after two years of study there she came to me in tears and told me all she wanted to do in life was to be a stay-at-home mom and raise children. I told her to go for it and don't worry about what others think, it's your life. She is now happily married and has two great kids. I couldn't be any more proud of her even if I could.
I never told her to be an artist, I never told her to be an electrical engineer, I only told her to be what she wanted to be.
So, how many 5 or 6 year old kids know what they are or what they want to be at that age and what happens when parents, outsiders, society try to tell them what they are or should be. I see it occurring everyday all over the place.Just let them be who they are and wait and see what they become. They don't need to be told. Parents who interfere in this process run the risk of being abusive, domineering and contrary to health and well-being of the child. Growing up is difficult in and of itself, they don't need abusive parental and societal interference in the process.
My oldest daughter told me once that she wanted to be a glitter artist when she grew up. Eventually she told me she absolutely hates glitter. So when she was older I sent her one of those cards that when opened exploded glitter all over the place. It took me two days of cleaning her house to get back into her good graces. I hate glitter now, too.